Hi! I’m Miller or bettie-turn-the-page, soon to be 24, US size 18(ish).
I recently made the decision to just stop hating on my body. Just stop. That’s it. I’m a mom, and though I have a son—who is more than likely not going to go through the body-negativity I went through in my youth, I want him to have a positive outlook on all bodies. I’ve always been bigger. I’m 5’9” first of all, and about as far away from graceful as one can get. I’m clumsy, I trip, my hips should have a “Wide Load” sign attached to them, and everything jiggles when I walk. And you know what, I love it.
It took me a long time to love myself though. As a young girl, in my formative years, I looked up to my mom, as most young girls do. And what I saw was, more oft than not, hurtful. I saw my mom put herself and her body down constantly. And she’s smaller than I am! So the message my precious little brain got was, “Well if mom’s fat, than clearly I am to. If mom needs to diet, then so do I.” And that’s bullshit. I love my mom, but she ruined my self-confidence in the worst way and it took me years to reclaim it.
Now, I’ve made a vow to myself. I will never, not once, not if I can help it, ever put my body down in front of my children. They will grow up seeing me love my body, accept my body, dress my body however I want to, and hopefully, they will do the same.
The best thing you can do for yourself is to love yourself unconditionally. None of this thigh gap bullshit. None of this, “Well if I lost ten pounds, I’d look sexy.” If you want to lose weight, fine, good for you, I wish you luck and I hope you go about it in a healthy way that is approved by your health care provider. If not, that’s fine to. You do you the way that you want. You love you the way that you want to, as long as it isn’t hurting yourself or anyone else. You be fabulous and thick or fabulous and thin. You be big, bold, and beautiful, or small, sassy, and sexy. I’m not gonna hate on anyone’s body and I refuse to let anyone hate on mine.
You’re all beautiful and I applaud everyone on here for sharing your stories and your pictures.